Things you learn in moments of extreme grief, part one.
⚱️ Content warning: death. My family recently had a huge and sudden loss on September 6, and I’m still in the midst of dealing with the immediate effects. The long term effects will be with me forever. But when I am writing and I know it is through the lens of grief, I will let you know with this urn call-out so you can skip if needed.
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The funeral-industrial complex is real.
In a way, I’m thankful for this. It gave me something to focus on, a set of tasks and tiny quests to fulfill rather than simply drowning in the grief that accompanied the passing of my youngest daughter, Dani.
I’ve been very fortunate that as I’ve worked with two different funeral homes (the body had to be transported) as well as many distant family (and ex-family) members, we’ve all pretty much pulled together and helped each other through. My oldest daughter just ordered the catering for the funeral service. My middle daughter is coming over to help me edit a video of our memories of her. My ex-wife and her boyfriend are arranging for the body to get on the plane in Aurora, and Dani’s twin is going to…
