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The Day Barbie Taught Me How Boys Aren’t Supposed to Play

It wasn’t my first lesson in gender roles, but it was the most clear.

5 min readAug 8, 2023

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Thanksgiving in the bicentennial year of 1976 was extra fun. I was seven years old, and my Dad, who worked in law enforcement, had taken us to his partner’s house. The sound of monster movies on channel 9 mingled with the aromas of turkey, stuffing, canned cranberry sauce and my favorite: my stepmom’s famous pineapple-and-marshmallow sweet potatoes (secret ingredient: a tablespoon of crunchy peanut butter).

Our families didn’t live close enough to visit each other more than a few times a year, but I’d slowly become friends with their daughter, Anna. She was friendly and smart, and while the grown-ups talked football and recipes and home improvement Anna and I would go upstairs and play with her toys.

And like most seven-year-old girls in the seventies, that meant Barbie.

GI Joe had cool stuff — but he had nothin’ on Barbie

My parents got me the 70’s era GI Joe doll so early I can’t remember ever not having it. This was before the cartoon or the little plastic action figures — he was a 10-inch tall burly man in camo with real fuzz on his head and lantern jaw. He also had an aesthetically tough scar…

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Gray Miller
Gray Miller

Written by Gray Miller

Gray is a former Marine dancer grandpa visualist who writes to help adults figure out what they want to be when they grow up.